I tend to day dream quite a bit. Recently, I was floating through my mind and I remembered an old reality show called "The Swan". It was TV genius in the height of the reality show era. The premise was a group of "ugly ducklings" aka hopelessly frumpy, single, aging, women who underwent a total body transformation (a plastic surgery smorgasbord if you will) to become a "Swan". If you never saw the show you missed out on a true pop culture gem and possible emotional scarring.
My aging crisis and geographical location seem to have come together like a perfect storm. I have always had self esteem issues but, damn will nothing magnify those issues like being stuck in a rut in Alabama. My smile lines, completion, body tone, weight, crooked teeth, stretchmarked, pale/translucent, broad shouldered, button nosed, fine haired self is getting a true beating by none other than a very bitchy mean girl... Me! Don't get me wrong, I can look at myself and appreciate the good things I was given physically. My eyes are big and blue and a genetic gift from my mother. I get compliments from men and women alike on my baby blues. But, it's not like I can take credit for them? God knows I can't see worth a flip out of them and yet it still makes me feel good to hear that someone else likes the way they look? I actually like my teeth. I hate I didn't wear my retainers and they aren't perfectly straight but I like that they are big like Chiclets. All gangly and boxy, something about a big toothy smile is attractive to me. And last, my mole/beauty mark right under my left eye! I love it! I don't know why? It serves no purpose other than a future melanoma scare and it is just a brown dot on my face . But it's a familiar freckle I have loved about me even as a child and I am pretty stoked it's there. Other than that I have pretty much picked apart every inch of my body. Just hating on my poor self for not having perfect this or perfect that. I am insecure (have zero game) around men and especially insecure around beautiful women. I have always admired women who carry themselves with confidence. Who knowingly flaunt what they love about themselves. I actually have weird admiration for women who rock clothes 2 sizes too small and 2 feet too short. I find it unsettling and vulgar but "Damnnn girl!!! Get on wit yo confidence!" I can find beauty in the perfections and imperfections of other people. One of my favorite things about living in NY was being surrounded by so many people of all walks of life. Different ethnicity's, ages, cultures, styles, all together in this same magical city. I could see the beauty in women, men, young and old, every person unique, every day something new. I love real people based non airbrushed, ads. Dove, campaign for real beauty has done an amazing job inspiring women to give a little self-love...but do I still find myself longingly looking at the Victoria's Secret catalogue wishing I were taller, smaller, and bustier... Yep! That saying "You are your own worst critic" is 100% true.
Now with all my shallowness exposed. I've decided to take what building block options I have and undergo a self swan like transformation. Well no where near as extreme. Maybe more like duckling to duck? I am starting my process with god forbid ADULT BRACES!! Basically the equivalent of an orthodontic tune up. Like a Nascar pit stop for my face. Next week I will get top braces for 2 to 3 months and bottom for about 5 months to correct my irresponsibility. Next since I am single, insecure and old as dirt I intend on taking my brace face into hiding and staying out of public places. Work, gym and pure barre for the next few months ONLY! Which will equal money in the bank (Fear of being seen is very cost effective). Taking the very few perks of braces and running with it, I am basically guaranteed weight loss by not being able to chew! So starvation that's a plus? Then with my added gym and barre hours I am counting on a 6 pack or at the least a 2 pack by the time they come off! Now I might add in a few other minor procedures of self improvement. I'm thinking LASIK because I have been visually impaired since I was 11 and sight is essentially the key to narcissism. And I'll maybe top it off with a little Botox or Juvederm because it seems age appropriate!
Soooooooo maybe my FB cleanse hasn't helped my social life or stopped my envy of others? Well all I can say is bottoms up and braces on for trying.
PS ~ Not 5 minutes after I typed this, I received a life line screening ad in the mail addressed to ME for middle aged people with potential heart disease.
PSS~ Complete melt down followed.
Tune of the Moment~ "Ain't got no, I got life" by Nina Simone